Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Why is the sexual objectification of men disturbing and not equality of any kind?

It is amusing when the world around me talks of Bollywood objectifying women, by making its women actors expose their midriffs, cleavages and legs, and much more of course. Bollywood atleast for the most movie goers, makes that moolah by putting women on display. Most women actors, as opposed to the era of seventies and eighties are objects put on the screen, to be devoured by the eyes and the senses of a sexually repressed clan of men. Sometimes you can find them groping and feeling innocent women while everyone is busy getting on with the business of life.
And many times, you can find them ogle and cat call at women on the streets, which is a form of everyday street sexual harassment women like me face in this part of the planet. For this breed of sexually "bottled up" men, Bollywood and advertisers have come up with innovative ways to sell their products to them. 
This is common for each one of us. Seeing the Kareenas and Katrinas gyrate to the gullibility of obscene lyrics and show skin. Most movie makers in bollywood add an item song, to sell their movies and sadly the new crop of female actors, for a few crores do not mind reducing themselves to an eye candy to please the heterosexual male viewer.
Yesterday was another experience. While walking into the MGF Metropolitan mall, Gurgaon yesterday, I was rudely shocked to see an almost nude cutout of a man, in a checked pair of shorts adorning the advertising board. Usually, what I see are blonde models selling a brand of fragrance or a shy Indian model modeling for an Indian brand of clothing. This ad left me flabbergasted. 

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Is urinating in public an Indian man's birthright?

While the poor creatures of the weaker sex in the country, need to hunt down a washroom or a public paid "sauchalaya" or try and figure out the location of the nearest Mc Donald's or CCD, the men of our country, well many of them can be seen relieving themselves in full public view. I had grown up to believe that it was due to lesser number of cleaner and usable toilets in the country, which is more or less a fact. As if it was the most coveted of birth rights they were bestowed with. Sadly, the licence to commit such a crime, was born out of the fact that in a country where more than half of the population doesn't have proper toilet facilities at home, this carte blanche freedom is just fuel to that fire. And mind you, one will never see women urinating in the public, it is just the men who were given these exclusive rights. Look it is easy, just unzip, bare your privies and unload the bladder. 
The first and the foremost reason for this menace is the cultural conditioning which allows the man to do anything in public. Men can get away with anything while a woman is a private being. She would never dare to even think of it in her wildest dreams. That is why we women either run to find a Mc Donalds or CCD and its cleaner restroom or in the worst possible scenario, hold our breath and use one of the paid "sulabh sauchalaya" most of which isn't properly maintained and cleaned. Many Indian women dread to have water, if they are out on long road trips. The reason: patriarchal apathy, which doesn't allow us to walk out of the boundaries of our modesty, while for men these rules don't make a difference.